Why I left my husband-yvonne jegede

Yvonne Jegede, has stated that she left her ex-husband, Olakunle Fawole, after she got what she wanted from him.

The Nollywood actress seems to have just given an inside hint on the reason her marriage to ex-hubby, Olakunle Fawole, failed, though we didn’t get as much as we would have wanted.

Jegede had shared a behind-the-scene photo on Instagram, only for a troll who saw how intimate the actress was with her male colleague told her that if she’d done that which she was doing in the photo to her ex-husband, her marriage would have still been intact.

Yvonne immediately shut the troll down with a brilliant response where she said she was the one that actually left Mr. Abounce after she’d successfully gotten what she wanted.

Why I cheated on my husband, five married women tell their story (must Read)

Women cheat for different reasons. Infidelity is never a new phenomenon. It has existed for as long as people have united and existed as couples, married or otherwise. Marriage counselors have reported that affairs sometimes occur in happy relationships as well as troubled and sad ones.

According to the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT), national surveys indicate that a total of fifteen percent of married women and twenty-five percent of married men have had extramarital affairs. Infidelity is about twenty percent higher when emotional and sexual relationships without intercourse are included. As more women began working outside the home, their chances of having an affair have increased accordingly and proportionately.

Here are some shocking revelations by five different women on why they cheated on their husbands. Couples cheat on each other. This is so true. Whether it’s through long, drawn-out emotional affairs or drunken quickies not to be ever repeated.

While the above numbers aren’t wildly scientific (people are probably not dying to admit or be forthcoming about the fact that they’ve betrayed the trust of a partner or spouse), they suggest that cheating is very much widespread.

The reasons for stepping out are varied: some people are bored and are hungry for adventure while others are trying to escape emotional abuse, still, others are just falling into an affair without fully realizing it. But the reasons are often almost the same: people are always on the quest for something different.

Here, are personal accounts of five women who were looking for something different themselves. Some of their names have been changed.

1. “My husband was like my roommate.”

The very first affair partner I ever had, it wasn’t intentional. I was not seeking to have an affair. That was not my intention at all. It just kind of happened, surprisingly and spontaneously. He was living in another country at the time, we had never met face to face. It was just like, an online friendship that turned into something that was a lot more. We eventually made plans to meet each other after eight months.

I still keep in contact with him. I still very much text him almost every day. My husband remains a good friend, but it’s essentially like living with a roommate. It’s not really a marriage anymore. So, that’s really what I’m looking for from another affair partner. Just a physical relationship.

I’ve considered getting a divorce. It’s just a long process. My home life isn’t bad. It’s not like a combative or argumentative relationship with my husband. It’s just not intimate and spicy anymore.

— Anna, 36, 

2. “My husband was in deep denial for years.”

I had never ever intended to cheat on my husband. But things happen. We are parents to three kids, one who has autism and ADHD. My husband was in deep denial for two whole years and became emotionally abusive. I didn’t feel guilty at all about cheating on him because it saved me.

It ended when my affair partner committed suicide. I was completely shattered. My husband got to find out by going through my phone not long after things began in 2012. He didn’t know everything until after Jacob’s death and I went in for therapy. My therapist recommended that I tell him everything to help both of us move on. It was a very hard discussion and decision. 

I was just one week from filing for a divorce when Jacob died. He wasn’t a reason for the divorce. I had plenty of other reasons. But I stopped the divorce proceedings, went into therapy and decided to stay in the marriage and give it another chance. Three years later, things are okay. My husband trusts me again. We worked through a lot.

— Wanda, 50, 

3. “He became so controlling.”

When we got married, my husband became very controlling and overly jealous. I put up with it. I wasn’t fooling around — he just didn’t want me to talk to some other men or even go out to lunch with my girlfriends.

And then I fell in love with a guy I was working with, about eight years into the marriage. Our marriage was really falling and tearing apart. The affair made me feel more loved and more confident about myself. I didn’t feel good about it at the time, but in retrospect, I don’t have any regrets.

I never dated the man I cheated on my husband with after the marriage ended. My ex-husband asked me after the divorce if I had an affair, but I didn’t tell him who it was. I’m single now and I’m fine with that. I’m happy to be out of the marriage. I don’t think I would have done anything differently. Maybe I would have ended my marriage sooner. But I was so much concerned about my children.

— Tegan,

4. “My husband was pulling away and dumping all of his problems on me.”

I was just looking every day in the mirror and realizing I was getting older and older every day. I had settled into a routine. My husband at the time was having some difficulties with his job, and mental illness. He was pulling away and dumping all the problems on me. It got to the point where I felt I could handle everything: the bills, the investment accounts, and all other financial transactions. I could handle all that. I’m well-educated and I have a college degree. 

He didn’t want to get help. I just looked at him one day and thought, He doesn’t get to have my entire life. I thought there had to be someone out there somewhere who could have a conversation with me, who found me attractive, who was missing what I was missing. I started going on dates.

My husband and I got a divorce. We could not solve our problems. I talked to him, before, about an open marriage. But he wasn’t okay at all with that so we got a divorce. I’m fine with what happened. I don’t have any regrets — at least not about that part.

— Tami

5. “My husband got sick and became a different person.”

My husband has Alzheimer’s. He became a totally different person. The person I lived with was not the person I fell in love with and married. I became severely depressed. There was no one but me to do anything and everything.

I decided there had to be some outlet out there for me. I don’t really even know why or when I decided, but I did at some point. I went on Ashley Madison. I started just going on simple dates; it was fun. But then I met someone. We’ve been in a relationship for over a year now. I’m not dating anyone else but him now. It’s helped me a lot with my broken life.

Now, I’m able to take care of my husband in a much better frame of mind. He’s no longer living with me, because it came to the point where I couldn’t do that, but he’s in town and I visit him all the time, check in on him, and do a couple of things with him.

He has no memory at all. I tell him something and five minutes later he’s not going to remember it. So I’m happier now. Every day of my life I grieved the loss of my marriage. The loss of my dear husband. The loss of life that I had. The life that I thought I was going to have as I got older. I just got to the point where I knew it was gone, it wasn’t coming back, and he wasn’t going to get better. It took me quite a while to accept that.

This is sad. I thought marriage was for better and for worse. Drop your comments let me hear your own experiences Too.

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Why I don’t want to marry or have children-Nollywood Actress monalisa Stephen.

Nollywood actress Monalisa Stephen was attacked on social media weeks back when she stated that she doesn’t want to marry neither have children of her own.

But in a new interview with Vanguard, the actress has opened up on the reason why she is making that critical life decision.

“Most people think it’s abnormal not to have your own flesh and blood and they think I took this decision because of my past relationship/heartbreak. Even someone personally chatted me and said she hopes I will find time to heal from what I am going through, blah blah, but this is a decision I took when I was 15, even though I am in my 20s but I relate well with older people and they thought me a lot of good things which changed my approach to life decisions and situations,” she said.

She further stated that people should not mistaken her decision for hatred for children.

“I love children a lot. When I was a teenager I would volunteer to go Care Homes and work since I don’t have money to give them and till now I still do it. Not to blow my trumpet or anything I just love caring for children and I know how it feels not to have parents. I lost my dad when I was one and my mum some few years ago and it’s still affecting me.

So, my decision not to have my own kids is due to my experience and the fact that there are millions of kids out there who deserve to be in a good family , who need to experience genuine family love and care. And I will not hesitate to give that chance to 2 kids , help them educationally, mentally and spiritually with the help and grace of God,” she quipped.

Why I killed my pregnant girlfriend

Simiso Chonco
Durban – Provoked and angry that his girlfriend had told him that the baby she was carrying was not his, the Lindelani man convicted of her murder and rape told the Durban High Court that his lack of self control had led to him strangling her.Judge Graham Lopes found Simiso Chonco, 28, guilty of raping and killing his 18-weeks-pregnant girlfriend, Sinethemba Ngubo, 26. He was sentenced to 25 years’ imprisonment for her murder, 15 years for rape and five years for stealing her vehicle. The murder occurred on December 9, 2018.

Chonco raped her in bush not far from his home and then strangled her before placing her body in her car and dumping it in the local cemetery.

Testifying in mitigation of sentencing through his attorney, Themba Mbili, he said that when Ngubo told him the baby was not his, he broke up with her but she had pursued him.

During the trial, evidence was led that Ngubo came to Chonco’s home and banged on the door, and when her knocks were not answered, she broke the windows. Chonco went outside and a fight broke out, which led to the murder.

He was arrested two days later while trying to find someone to remove the tracker from her car.

Handing down sentence, Judge Lopes said it was clear from the evidence that Ngubo had provoked Chonco.

“He was sitting at home and she came and banged the door and broke windows. His reasons for doing what he did after she told him that the baby was not his, is no excuse. No amount of disappointment and embarrassment even begins to justify his actions,” Judge Lopes said.

Mbili had submitted that provocation, his youth, the fact that he was a first offender, and that Ngubo had broken windows were some of the factors to consider in sentencing.

He said Chonco was a father of three children and worked in the fast food industry to support them.

Mbili told the court that Chonco was remorseful for his actions and asked for forgiveness.

“He has already started attending anger management classes in prison. He also wishes that one day he will reunite with his children,” said Mbili.

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Why we burn PDP woman leader to Death

Ocholli, who spoke with newsmen shortly after being paraded yesterday, confessed that he was an All Progressives Congress (APC) thug who mobilized other thugs from Ejule in Ofu Local Government Area to set the house on fire and reigned mayhem shortly after the election.

Mrs Salome Abu, the women leader of Wada Aro Campaign Council, Ochadamu Ward, was said to have been burnt alive in her residence when she was resting after treatment from an injury on the election day.

While reacting to the act, the spokesman, Wada/Aro Campaign Council, Faruk Adejoh-Audu,  had claimed that the thugs, shooting sporadically, arrived Abuh’s house at about 2pm on the fateful day  and surrounded the house, blocking every exit and escape from outside.

“They then poured petrol on the building and set it ablaze as other terrorized villagers watched from hiding. She reportedly attempted to escape through a window but was prevented by the metal burglary proof and gunshots with bullets raining in her direction.

“The blood thirsty thugs waited, shooting and watching with relish while Mrs Abuh cried from inside the inferno until her voice died out. They reportedly left only when the entire house and Mrs Abuh had been burnt to ashes,” he was quoted to have said

But the police commissioner, Hakeem Busari, while parading the suspect with five others, said the whole crisis erupted when there was a misunderstanding between Gowon Simon and Awolu Zekeri, which led to the death of the latter.

He said the death of Zekeri led to the mobilization of some angry youths in the town, who moved to the house of Simon Abu, who is an uncle to the suspect where the 60-years-woman was burnt to death.

The CP, who said other suspects are on the run, however, added that as soon as investigation is completed, the suspects will be arraigned in court.

He gave the names of other suspects, who claimed they were only arrested differently as robbers and not killers of Abuh as Haruna, Egbunu, Alido, Attai and Eje.

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