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11 signs your partner is sleeping with someone else.

11 Signs Your Partner May Be Sleeping With Someone Else

In its most ideal form, a relationship means that you two have entered a partnership. It means that you both work things out between the two of you like a team, even when you don’t agree with one another. It means that you never have to worry about a serious betrayal because you’re both working toward the same goal.

If humans would have the inherent characteristic to be alone and happy, perhaps the population would be a lot less and each one us would be occupying our own personal island. However, fortunately and unfortunately, we are highly evolved individuals, for whom to love and to be loved is a very basic necessity. Hence being in a relationship is an option which we do choose, to ensure our “Happily ever after life.

Hence being in a relationship means to live, to love, to smile, to exist with joy!!

There is certainly a way to sort out every difference, you just need the will and the faith strong enough, to make the relationship fruitful. You need to remember, that you enter into a relationship to be happy , and you must be.

Cheating is never to do with how attractive you are. No one likes to think about whether or not their partner is seeing or sleeping with someone else. In an ideal world, no one would have to deal with the heartbreak that comes with being cheated on. Unfortunately, these things do happen. Hopefully, your relationship is one where open and honest communication comes before the possibility of your partner seeking an extramarital affair.

But if that isn’t the case, there are plenty of ways to tell whether or not your partner is sleeping with someone else. Of course, context is key. Some of these signs, by themselves, don’t mean your partner is cheating. You need to look at the bigger picture, pattern of behavior, and see if it’s out of the norm.

SUBTLE DISINTEREST IN SEX

If you feel a shift in romantic energy or if they just don’t seem interested in having sex with you anyway,” says O’Connell. Perhaps because they’re getting sex somewhere else?

THEY BECOME PROTECTIVE OF THEIR PHONE

If your partner, in the past, was not very protective of their phone and “if you notice a change in phone habits — like suddenly on silent all the time”, it could be a sign that there’s something on there that they don’t want you to see, says author Marina Sbrochi.

You’ve probably had no issue using your partner’s phone for something in the past – but now, they seem to be extremely protective, even going so far as to put a lock on it that prevents you from opening it.

THEY’RE (TOO OFTEN) HOME LATE FROM WORK

If your partner is usually home by a certain time every day, but suddenly they’re staying late at work, it could be an excuse for them to see someone else behind your back. It’s a common enough excuse that many people don’t think too much about.

As dating and relationship advice and etiquette expert April Masini says, “When someone stops coming home at the regular time, on a regular basis, be wary. When a schedule changes and there’s no comment about why or what he or she is doing differently, it may be because your spouse is cheating on you.

THEY’RE SMILING AT THEIR PHONE OFTEN

If a dog meme isn’t the thing on their cellular device eliciting that pearly-white smile, it’s a sign they’re getting a message from someone…who isn’t you…

SHOWERING AS SOON AS THEY GET HOME

Unless your partner does a job like construction, roofing, or something else that’s bound to get them dirty, taking a shower as soon as they get off work can be a sign that they’re trying to wash away the evidence of another person. They might want to scrub away some errant lipstick, or a hint of cologne or perfume. This is a sign, especially if their showering habits are changing suddenly.

THEY PAY MORE ATTENTION TO THEIR APPEARANCE

This sign doesn’t always mean that they’re sleeping with someone else – especially if they’ve already discussed with you wanting to change their appearance. However, if your partner goes from not caring much about how they look, to suddenly preening like a peacock, they may be trying to impress someone else.

Masini adds, “If your partner starts suddenly looking a lot better than he or she used to, they may be cheating.” If you’re not sure that the person they’re trying to impress is you, this can point to a sign of your partner stepping out.

THEY’RE UNEXPECTEDLY TRYING SOMETHING NEW IN BED

Of course, this also doesn’t automatically mean that your partner is cheating on you. Usually, something new is going to be communicated between the two of you. However, if your partner is suddenly kissing you in a way that seems learned, or trying something new in bed without having discussed it first, it may be a sign that they’re actually figuring this stuff out with someone else.

THEY’VE PICKED UP NEW HABITS

These habits can be anything from suddenly being over-protective of their phone, to not picking up their phone when you call. The new habits that your partner exhibits will often be hard to explain away, and your partner may feel defensive if you try to bring them up. This can be a sign that they’re seeing someone else and they don’t want you to know about it.

YOU’RE FEELING IGNORED

One of the biggest signs that your partner is seeing someone else, is that feeling you get when you know that you’re no longer being appreciated in the relationship. While your partner may think that hiding evidence of the fact is enough, they may not notice that they’re treating you differently, and making you feel underappreciated.

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An interesting fact about U.S and NDIGBO,Why they are inseparable.

IPOB’s Nnamdi Kanu and U.S President-elect Donald J. Trump

Cybercrime is condemnable, it is the new face of inter-continental fraud. Just as we all condemn Taubman Goldie and his band of scammers who kidnapped our land in the past, we must also rise against our children who think this is payback time.

From the list released, most of the Yahoo millionaires bear Igbo names. This does not do Ndigbo any good because they have given so much to the United States and are also very much loved by the Americans.

I am not going to pretend about this. If Igbo land were colonized by America instead of  Britain, the world would have been importing so much from here. America is also home.

Nigeria’s first president, Dr. Nnamdi Azikiwe, was the first Nigerian to graduate from an American University. While others were journeying by sea to the United Kingdom to study, Zik chose the United States.

Let us look at the attachment. There is a large concentration of Ndigbo in the US. President of World Igbo Assembly, Dr. Nwachukwu Anakwenze, says:” the important thing to note is that four major groups founded America.

“They are the English, the Irish, the German and the Igbo. Half of African-Americans are Igbo people who were those kidnapped and taken into slavery.”

We must understand that while the ‘Mayflower’ ferried the Pilgrim Fathers from Europe to America in search of freedom of worship, the ‘Jesus’ took many blacks to American plantations. The Igbo wanted freedom and showed signs early enough.

In the State of Virginia, there is an Igbo village and museum. It was not set up by Dr Anakwenze who is the chairman, it was established by the government and he was tasked with the job of overseer.

So there is a very strong link between Ndigboand Americans. Edward James Roye, the fifth president of Liberia was born in Newark Ohio, in 1815, to Igbo

parents, before relocating to Monrovia.

Edward Wilmot Blyden, the great scholar and liberator were Igbo too. So was Paul Robeson, actor, singer and author. Today, we have great Americans like T.D. [Thomas Dexter] Jakes and Forest Whitaker, identifying their roots.

Whitaker took a flight to Nigeria and found home in Nkwerre, Imo State where he was honoured with the chieftaincy title of ‘Nwanne di na mba’ [sibling who lives away]. Danny Glover became ‘Enyioma’ [Good friend].

In Oklahoma, there is a town called Ada. In 1918, Evangelist Oral Roberts was born there. Ada is the Igbo word for first daughter. You will find Americans bearing that name even if it has a different meaning.

Ada Lunardoni was a member of the US gymnastics team to the Berlin ’36 Olympic Games. There is a place in Nebraska, called Omaha. It is also the name of AIT Reporter, Ngozi Omaha.

When Dr. Sam Mbakwe wanted to establish the Imo State University he sought technical assistance from Nebraska. That was before Gen. Ike Nwachukwu moved the permanent site to Abia State.

Americans also bear Ike. President Dwight David Eisenhower was known as Ike. Another Ike married pop star, Tina Turner.

Also read: Breaking: Turn yourself in to FBI, FG tells indicted Nigerians

The connection is deep. Theophilus Uzochukwu Chukwuemeka Okonkwo left his Canadian university in 1955 to study at Patrice Lumumba Friendship University, Moscow. The Soviets tagged him American spy and expelled the young man.

Biafran Foreign minister, Mathew Tawo Mbu, said the United States loved Biafra but could not do much. I guess they did not want to hurt the British.

Some Americans showed affection. Bruce Mayrock, 20, set himself ablaze at the United Nations on May 30, 1968, to draw attention to the genocide in Biafra. He could have been saved by the fire service but the man chose to die for Biafra.

On June 30, 1969, August Harvey Martin, died at the Uli Airport when his aircraft bringing food and relief materials ran into a rainstorm. He defied air and ground attacks by the Nigerian military.

In Illinois, there is respect for Biafra, thanks to Chima Enyia who began as an intern with Pat Quinn and got Governor Bruce Rauner to issue an official statement in remembrance of the crisis.

More positive things are happening. From Austin Esogbue, the first African employee of NASA, to Kimberly Anyadike, who at 15, in 2010, became the youngest black female to fly solo across the US, there is good news.

Chinedu Echeruo and Tobenna  Arodiogbu are making clean money and employing Americans. In entertainment, there are Emmy Award-winning actress, Uzoamaka Nwanneka Aduba, Tyler Okonma and Jidenna.

In sports, it is a success story. Azuka Habour left Enugu Rangers in 1982, by 1991 he was the American professional soccer leading scorer. From Maryland Bays, he joined Tampa Bay Rowdies in 1992.

Habour ended the season as top scorer with 13 goals. He played for the US national team at Saudi 1992. After him came Oguchialu Chilioke Onyewu who played at the Germany 2006 World Cup.

Maurice Edu played against Nigeria at the Beijing 2008 Olympics. Chioma Ubobagu faced the Falconets at the female Under -20 championships, Japan 2012. Nnemkadi Ogwumike helped defeat D’ Tigress last year in Tenerife.

Chinwoke Mbadinuju, yes, the ex-governor, played football for America in 1969 while at New York State University. Junior players include Amechi Igwe, son of ‘World Two’ Tony Igwe, Amechi Anugu, Mathew Okoh and Ike Opara.

In basketball, you will find Emeka Okafor and Chinanu Onuaku who captained the US   to gold at the FIBA Under-19 championship, Greece 2015.

Prominent athletes include Courtney Okolo, Barbara Nwaba, Amarachi Ukabam, Jessica Onyepunuka, Jennifer Madu and Keturah Orji.

Glory Asumnu and Emerald Egwim pledged allegiance to Nigeria after competing for America while Christie Opara-Thompson did the opposite.

Claudia Anyaso caps it all. She is American, got married to an Igbo. In 1986, Claudia was at United States Information Service, Lagos. Over a decade after leaving Nigeria, she returned to the US Embassy in Abuja. Call it One love.

 

8 Reasons why women cheat

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Everyone is involved in some kind of self-justification of all sorts of slight misconducts, such as telling a white lie (“I didn’t want to harm her emotions”).

Even when you discover that your girlfriend has cheated on you, it’s not the end of the word. We are all animals, after all, attracted to other beings.

forgivness is crucial when you talk about a deep, mature love. You likely would love to interact or already was interacting with other women, while still choosing to be with your girlfriend above all. Infidelity doesn’t have to mean lack of love, but it’s definitely making trusting another person much harder.

When some people mostly focus on how to catch a cheater, it’s definitely better to work on the connection with your partner and avoid a few common reasons why women cheat in a relationship.

You’re going to justify these misdeeds by claiming you’re sparing the feelings of someone else, or just doing them because you didn’t have any option. However, your capacity to rationalize could be extended beyond acceptable limits in the event of the much bigger wrongdoing of family infidelity.

According to a study conducted by Michele Jeanfreau, a scientist of the University of Southern Mississippi, although marriage infidelity is “commonly recorded and witnessed,” it “continues incomprehensible”. The scientists notice that what is especially puzzling is the reality that individuals will choose to be unfaithful rather than trying a distinct path to seek treatment or find methods to transmit their unmet requirements to their peers. The aim of the tiny, centred women’s interview research by the team was to dig deep into the rational wives used to explain their infidelity.

At a basic level, conduct you consider incompatible with your faithful and loyal values should cause a type of mental dissonance between your actions and your beliefs. Then, the Southern Mississippi squad indicates, to have an affair, you must grant yourself “approval.” They compare this need for a right-wrong law with the military combat situation of troops. In this case, “Permission” to kill provides an alternative set of principles to those who value human life that justifies the need to take the lives of enemy soldiers.

While infidelity varies from murder in conflict, in both circumstances a state of cognitive dissonance happens. Using a structure created to understand troops of these mental states, Jeanfreau, and her peers thought that they could obtain more insight into how women who cheat decrease their dissonance.

If these ideas seem unreasonable, or that justifying infidelity should hardly be the same as justifying the act of murder, considering the cognitive dissonance system as one that could shed light on what individuals do when they drink is nevertheless of importance. You have to modify your conduct or your views to decrease cognitive dissonance, but if the conduct has already taken place, you can only alter your views to decrease the anxiety connected with this unpleasant state.

Remember, too, that the hypothesis underlying this research is that failure to adhere to this concept is, in reality, an infringement of the fundamental importance of the partnership when marriage couples undertake to be loyal rather than working under other regulations. (They were monogamous females researched by the group.)

Jeanfreau et al. carried out their research on a tiny homogeneous sample of four divorced females who were all accepted to infidelity. Recognizing that this is pilot research, the group did not seek to generalize to a bigger population but to “explain and comprehend respondents ‘ experiences.” Interviews in depth can function as a significant bridge between theory and bigger, well-controlled research. Because the writers did not try to generalize to a bigger population, from their interview transcripts they structured their results around content topics and citations. Indeed, the strategy taken by the group appears to be particularly appropriate to the investigation topic:

By taking their participants ‘ perspectives, the scientists could attempt to reconstruct what problems the females encountered, instead of enforcing their open-ended answers a preset set of classifications. Using their “wicked” strategy justification as a guide, the writers nevertheless had at least one theoretical structure that they could study to suit their respondents ‘ lived experiences.

With this in mind, here are the four factors are given by the females in the sample, together with some quotes from relevant parts of their interviews:

1. Revenge

Many females who cheat, after being severely harmed, get vengeance on their mates. Affairs can do a ton of harm, but females find a single warm guy instead of weeping with their mates and show him precisely how much it hurts to learn that your spouse has cheated you. Not smart, really, but understandable… Only so much can be accomplished by yelling, and the pain is severe. It can readily block rational thinking, and it could be pushed into pay-back even someone who understands two wrongs.

2. It’s boring in the bedroom

Men aren’t the only people that need the stuff to spice up. “Women must be wanted!” If she doesn’t have to speak about anything, enough, or anything, females begin to feel a sexual void.

3. Feeling neglected

Another prevalent cause of problems is feeling ignored. Women just can’t afford to be careless, and if they don’t get it at home, they’re going to get it from outside males. But one thing can contribute to another, and being subjected to flattery that is so uncommon can create talking into her bed so much simpler for a charming womanizer. Well, I don’t understand if it’s going to get outcomes, and any day I would suggest a conversation about a fling, but that’s understandable as well. Don’t stand for neglect!

4. Jealousy

Have you ever been so sexy with a guy that no female can assist herself in his vicinity? Whether it’s a suggestive smile or a beverage, he never seems to be able to escape the watching crowds, and it can make you feel insecure, particularly if you feel like an ordinary Jane next to him, which is why females with beautiful children are boosting their trust by bringing another guy to sleep. It shows that they are also a head-turner, making them feel much more confident, but remember that it could leave your relationship in tatters, and it won’t solve the problem of jealousy.

5. Feeling a relationship ending

“When a female gets that uncomfortable feeling that a connection is on the outset, she will often try to fill the gap outwardly to soften the thrust,” he said. “If she is the one who considers the divorce, she may use this strategy as a test to both test the waters for herself and then determine whether she can go through it.”

6. Replacement

A surprising number of females confessed to cheating to discover their next spouse so when they left their present spouse they would not be single. Shocked? I’ve been! Cheating your partner can’t attract you to prospective boyfriends after all, right? Well, it seems more and more is occurring. I can’t get this one around my head. If you want to quit, go, and if it’s essential to quickly replace him with a fresh person, put yourself in blind dates, dating velocity and evenings out. But be honest!

7. Change

Change can trigger an affair to be sought by a female. From the obvious, like getting a child, to easy items like changing home, an affair will create her feel sexy and appealing and offer some substance to her life until it finishes. Take a babysitter, book a night out, and do your spouse a true attempt. Try a fresh name and a wig. Create the same impact, but get your Mr. Right involved or you might lose him!

8. Seeing yourself as just plain bad

If your dissonance is caused by seeing yourself as living according to a high moral code, you can reduce the dissonance by seeing yourself as having “primitive or antisocial attitudes, impulses, and actions”. If you were a better person, in other words, you wouldn’t be cheating. However, you’re flawed, and therefore in a way can’t help yourself.

The basic assumption of the Mississippi research is that married or involved people with problems experience cognitive dissonance that they have to reduce in some manner, shape, or form. Giving ones self “approval” is one of those elements, and all of these four factors fit within that framework.

To attain fulfillment in your lives, whether in friendships or daily actions, is to see your principles as coherent with your behavior. Because we want to be compatible with our beliefs and conduct, infringement of our principles can be so difficult.

When such dissonance occurs in your closest relationship, as the authors of the study note, it may be time to take stock before acting on the impulses that require permission. Although it is simpler to beg for forgiveness than consent, as the saying goes, communicating with your spouse in this situation may prevent you from doing either.

There’s no ideal connection. However, if you still want to be together and attempt to work it out when things eventually get tough, what makes it fairly damn near to ideal. You need to know and be ready to evaluate why she did it to fix the connection. Taking someone back doesn’t necessarily make you a fool; seeing beyond that betrayal requires a bunch of power, patience, and self-assurance. Would you like to understand if you are a doormat? Ask yourself if you think it’s just a one-time error or the first time it’s done.

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TONTO DIKEH IS PREGNANT

Tonto Dikeh is pregnant?

A source who rolls in the close circuit of Tonto Dikeh has claimed that the actress is reportedly 4 months pregnant.

In a report by Vanguard, a source close to the actress, revealed that she has a new man in her life and she has been has been full of life in the past few months and she is always beaming of unending happiness.

“It’s not a rumour, everyone close to her know she’s happy with a new man in her life. She’s about 4 months pregnant now” the source whispered with a plea of anonymity.

 

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Woman poses selfie with his Ex-husband soaked in blood ‘ as the man tries to strangle her

Olga Vaori says her former lover tried to strangle her during a booze fuelled argument in Surgut, Russia

A WOMAN posed for a chilling selfie with her blood-drenched ex-husband after knifing him during an argument, according to police

Olga Vaori told her friends “it looks like I’m the beast” following the stabbing in the city of Surgut in central Russia’s Khanty-Mansi Autonomous Okrug region.

 A woman posed for a selfie with her blood-soaked husband after stabbing him
A woman posed for a selfie with her blood-soaked husband after stabbing him

The 25-year-old was later formally detained on suspicion of “exceeding justifiable self-defence” after plunging a knife into Oleg Smirnov.

She claimed that the man had “attempted to strangle” her during a furious booze fuelled argument and she stuck the knife in him to defend herself.

Vaori received out patient treatment for minor injuries, it was reported.

Her ex-husband required emergency surgery for a knife wound to his abdomen, it was reported.

 Olga Vaori later texted her pals saying: 'It looks like I'm the beast'
Olga Vaori later texted her pals saying: ‘It looks like I’m the beast’

Vaori – who is allowed to serve her detention at home to care for the ex-couple’s two year old child – posted to her friends: “Guys, I stabbed my ex-husband with a knife.

“I was taken to accident and emergency for three hours.

“And only now have I cleaned up everything.

“It looks like I am a beast.”

 The former couple had reportedly got into an argument following a boozy evening
The former couple had reportedly got into an argument following a boozy evening
 If convicted she faces up to a year in prison for using excessive force in self defence
If convicted she faces up to a year in prison for using excessive force in self defence
 Smirnov required emergency surgery for a knife wound to his abdomen following the clash
Smirnov required emergency surgery for a knife wound to his abdomen following the clash
 The couple share a two year old daughter who is still in Vaori's care
The couple share a two year old daughter who is still in Vaori’s care
 She told her friends: 'Guys, I stabbed my ex-husband with a knife.
She told her friends: ‘Guys, I stabbed my ex-husband with a knife.

She has no previous criminal record, according to New Day media outlet.

Police spokeswoman Olga Abmaikina said: “The woman is charged with exceeding the limits of necessary self-defence, entailing grievous bodily harm.

“She has been placed under house arrest while the investigation is ongoing.”

Vaori has been forbidden from leaving her city during the criminal investigation.

She can face a sentence for up to one year if convicted of using excessive force in self defence.

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