Wyley, 28, discovered that he was pregnant by his fiancé, Sephan Gaeth, in February 2018. At this time, he was still transitioning.
At first, the very thought of getting pregnant as a man crippled him emotionally. Given the fact that he had started testosterone treatment in 2012, the effects of this let him to believe that it was impossible for him to conceive.
This caused him to feel a great level of unpreparedness when he discovered his pregnancy. Even more, he received a lot of “judgement from strangers”. Despite all this, he and his partner decided to go through with the pregnancy.
In September 2018, Wyley gave birth to a son, Rowan, through emergency C-section. But before the baby was born, it was a tug of war for the pregnant man. For one, he was terribly abused and insulted by many.
With regards to this, Wyley said: “It’s not every day that someone sees a pregnant man walking down the road so we received a fair amount of abuse. I would be told that I’ll never be a man, ‘men don’t carry babies’ and everyone called me ‘it’.”
“Once my physical bump had disappeared and I was able to take my hormones again, I felt good about everything,” he explained. “Now myself and Stephan are just revelling in fatherhood and can’t wait to continue our journey as a family.”
Despite their happiness over their son, Wyley said he did not think he and his partner wanted another child. H still has plans to fully transition into a male. “I am looking to fully transition in the future, so the likelihood of having another child naturally is unlikely,” he said.
“It was a great feeling to be able to carry Rowan, feeling him kick and going to baby scans, but for me as a person, it isn’t something I can continue to do.” “I don’t see myself as any less of a man because of what happened, but I just do not identify in such a feminine way as to be pregnant – so it won’t be happening again.”